|Message ||A boy of 12 who raped a nine-year-old girl after watching hard-core pornography online was spared jail yesterday as his lawyer warned of a generation of children growing up with a ‘skewed view’ on sex.
I suspect rape like this has always happened. We now r more aware of it. The right sort of relationship & intimacy education is the key. Did this boy have it ? We r not told. Most porn on the net, just reflects our screwed attitude to sex
The schoolboy, who is now 14, told police he had raped the little girl because he wanted to ‘feel grown up’ after watching porn online.In a disturbing case that has raised fresh concerns about the sexualisation of children, the teenager had unrestricted access to the web and was able to freely look at sexually explicit material. Morality is innate - children have a conscience and moral choice from the day they're born and they know exactly what they're doing. There's no such thing as innocence. Most parents now don't want to take any responsibility for there own childre. This story made me cry for a generation which has had its childhood stolen from it.
The girl was sexually assaulted a number of times in the 2 months between 1st December 2010 and 31st January 2011, and also in the boy's bedroom. So why didn't she stay away from the boy and keep out of his house? Had she been watching porn with him? She was officially raped because she was too young to give her consent, but she seems to have cooperated until she felt ill and thought she might be pregnant - then she panicked. There is a lot here we do not know and will never know
Crimes with kids of this age group are becoming more and more frequent. The terrifying thing about sex crime is the victim is treated disgustingly while the accussed (no matter what age) has a team of lawyers, social workers/support/case workers behind them before/during and longtime after the case has been heard. I know people think it is a joke when we say Judges are out of touch- believe me they are, these people are so far removed from the 'general public' it is frightening. This lad did commit a sex crime and is a danger to other kids but he will be looked after for a long long time where as the poor little girl and her family will have to fight tooth & nail to get any kind of counselling or help.
Allow an open sewer pipe into the home, expect the place to start to stink.
Or was that computer bought as an "educational babysitter"?
Children have always been drawn to things that are forbidden to them - but in today`s media saturated world, with ALLOWED private access to almost anything, just WHAT and how OFTEN they can expose themselves to unsuitable material is way out of control.
Of course, parents SHOULD be in control in their own home. Or the lone parent should if she`s not too "busy"!
Just like using that other techno cancer, the mobile phone - in the car - the people who use these all intrusive mind numbing drugs can`t always be trusted to do so wisely, can they? So legislate.
Nowadays there is far too much corrupting, adult material around which is far too easily available to kids (who think they are grown up). Children should be allowed to be children, and it is up to adults everywhere to ensure kids are protected from themes of an adult nature.
Tip of the iceberg. I've worked in primary schools with parents and governors and there are a lot of attempted rapes or sexual assaults go unreported where the school tries to play them down. My daughter was, at the age of 7, just one of four little girls sexually assaulted by an 8 year old boy in the playground one lunchtime. The lad was around 8 stone in weight, the size of a 12 year old and it took three dinner ladies to get him off my daughter. Why did he do it? Well, he shared a bed with his parents who were open about the fact they were trying for a baby while their son was still in bed with them. Another factor was the lad had an adult uncle with Downs who could watch porn but not understand why his 8 year old nephew couldn't see it too. The lad was shipped off to another school with nothing on his record to warn others. Three guesses what he did at the next school? And you won't need the other two guesses.
To those saying he's old enough to know right from wrong , you are correct , but may I ask whenever it's a female child that has commited a crime or had consensual sex , "she's too young to understand". Why are only boys responsible for themselves at such an early age , I agree he is old enough to understand , but then so are the young girls who send death threats to one direction girlfreinds , as are the girls who Jump into bed willy nilly at the age of 12 , but as usual , society let's females off to easily , showering them with excuses. I was once criticised by the mother of an ex-pupil, about 17 years old, because I didn't show any interest in the baby she brought into school to show off. Naturally, the school management supported the mother, as my lack of enthusiasm could be interpreted as a criticism of the way she, the daughter, chose to live her life!
Let's get this into perspective: pornography is a business; parenting is a JOB; why should an ADULT entertainment industry be reined in because some slapdash breeders aren't doing their JOB correctly?? Computer in the living room, limited & fully supervised use, and PARENTAL CONTROLS engaged: Simple! I hope the boy's parent/s get punished for the rape of the innocent girl, since they are responsible for the access allowed to their son.
Blaming the Internet when this sort of thing happened before it was even invented. Even so, it merely highlights that children shouldn't be using the Internet unsupervised. The Internet isn't designed for children. It's designed for adults and quite understandably includes lots of adult content.
Children should be taught about the different kinds of relationships from an early age so that they have a clear understanding and ability to distinguish between friendships, platonic and romantic and the importance of emotional maturity . The emphasis with sex education should be on the relationship that should exist between sexually active young adults, emphasizing self-respect, assertiveness re. peer pressure the importance of responsibility, trust, mutual consent and ideally love. (and that it is illegal to have sex under the age of 16) Parents need to supervise more stringently the clothes their children wear, the music and t.v. they listen to and watch and should not allow children to have computers in their bedrooms because children are being sexualised before they are emotionally mature enough to have sex. Parents are largely to blame for losing control over the influences on their children and failing to restrict what they watch and listen to and the company they keep. You are no longer allowed to tell parents the correct way to bring up their children because they will not listen. This is what you get with a society that is full of sexual imagery and no restraints. It's only going to get worse. I feel for the children of today.
I think peer pressure to treat women/girls like objects has a part to play ... I think we would all get a nasty shock if we lifted the lid on inner city schools and the depths of depravity and casual criminal behavior contained within. Once Leveson is finished perhaps we should closely at something that actually MATTERS ?